Research/Safety

Romance scam warning signs, according to the FTC

A practical, source-backed checklist for recognizing romance scam patterns without treating every online relationship as suspicious.

THE SHORT ANSWER

The clearest warning pattern is a person who builds intimacy remotely, avoids meeting or verification, then asks for money, cryptocurrency, gift cards, fees, or urgent financial help.

40%
of 2022 loss reports began on social media
19%
began on a website or app
60%+
of reported losses used crypto or bank wires combined
SCREENSHOT RECEIPT40%

of 2022 loss reports began on social media

Source: Federal Trade Commission
01

Watch the sequence, not one isolated detail

A scammer may claim to be overseas, sick, injured, detained, handling a package, or offering an investment opportunity. The common structure is distance plus urgency plus a payment request.

A real person can travel or face an emergency. The risk escalates when identity cannot be independently verified and every path leads back to sending money.

02

Payment method is a major clue

FTC analysis found that cryptocurrency and bank wires together accounted for more than 60% of reported romance-scam losses in 2022. Gift cards were the most frequently reported payment method among people who lost money.

Requests to move money for someone you have not met should stop the conversation. Do not send funds to unlock an investment, receive a package, pay a customs fee, or prove loyalty.

03

Verify, preserve, and report

Reverse-search profile images, verify details through independent sources, and tell someone you trust. Preserve messages and transaction records before blocking the account.

Report the profile to the platform and the incident to ReportFraud.ftc.gov. If money moved, contact the bank, wire service, gift-card issuer, or cryptocurrency platform immediately; recovery is not guaranteed, but speed matters.

Open the evidence.

These links go to the publisher—not a secondhand statistic roundup.

  1. 01
    Federal Trade Commission

    Romance Scammers’ Favorite Lies Exposed

    FTC analysis of how reported romance scams began, common stories, communication channels, and payment methods.

    Open source ↗
  2. 02
    Federal Trade Commission

    Love Stinks — When a Scammer Is Involved

    Official Consumer Sentinel summary of 2023 romance-scam reports, reported losses, and median individual losses.

    Open source ↗
What is the biggest romance scam red flag?

A request for money from someone whose identity and story cannot be independently verified—especially when paired with urgency or instructions to pay by crypto, wire, or gift card.

Where should a romance scam be reported?

Report the account to the platform and submit the incident at ReportFraud.ftc.gov. Contact the payment provider immediately if money was sent.

Can a video call prove someone is legitimate?

Not by itself. Stolen video, deepfakes, and rehearsed stories can still be used. Independent verification and refusing money requests are stronger safeguards.